Big-Hearted Boundaries

Boundaries for Balance

A.K.A Big-Hearted Boundaries

A 6-week embodied journey for women.

Take back your time. Prioritise your peace.

Fill yourself back up through the lost art of guilt-free boundaries.

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Boundaries are an act of love.

As women, we are not taught how to feel our boundaries, trust their wisdom, or express them skillfully to others.

This can leave us feeling:

Disconnected from ourselves - always rushing, busy, over-stretched.
Undernourished and unfulfilled.
Like Cinderella in our own lives: Always catering to other people's priorities and desires, but never our own.
Undervalued, unappreciated and invisible.
Over-extended and burnt out.
Increasingly resentful and angry, frustrated at the people we love.
Guilty of having needs and yet ashamed at our inability to ask for what we want.

If you feel burned out, frustrated and tired of people-pleasing, you are not alone.

As women, we are trained from such an early age to abandon ourselves in order to prioritise the needs of other people and the world. We're taught to be 'good girls' and 'self-less women'.

As a result, boundaries can feel unknown and scary, but they are in fact:

a doorway into self-connection and fierce self-love.
a joyful rediscovery of who you are and what matters most in life.
a bridge into intimacy and connection with the people you love.
the kindest, most freeing act we can do for ourselves and others.

This six-week course will help you to rediscover yourself more fully, and become a much better friend to yourself.

Reframe your relationship with boundaries and start expressing them from a place of deep kindness and love.

With video lessons, reflection prompts, meditations and embodied exercises, you'll discover how to recognise your truest desires, trust yourself more deeply and be clearer with those you love.

Let boundaries set you free.

Using embodied techniques, meditation and creative explorations, Boundaries for Balance will help you return deeply to yourself, get clear on what is most important in your life, and help you to lovingly say 'no' to what no longer serves you.

INTRODUCING...

BIG-HEARTED BOUNDARIES

Learn to say a loving No, so that you can say 'Hell yes' to the things that truly matter.

Learn how to disconnect from the noise around you and tune in to what's happening in your body-mind. By the end of this course you will:

Be experiencing less guilt and more ease in your life.
Feel more rooted in your connection with yourself and your true desires.
Be more confident saying both 'no' and 'hell yes!! and less worried about how the world responds.

WEEK #1

Introduction to the course. Starting to look inward, discovering our cultural conditioning and your unique patterns.

WEEK #2

Cultivating kindness and self-love.

WEEK #3

Being a friend to yourself. Making kind choices regarding sharing of your time and resources.

WEEK #4

Letting go of what doesn't serve you. Introduction to the role of anger.

WEEK #5

The fierce side of boundaries. Dealing with challenging scenarios. Being our own protector.

WEEK #6

Life examples. Putting the skills from this course into practice in daily life. Receiving other's boundaries.

WEEK #7

Bonus week - Recap of the journey. Reflecting. Celebrating you!

INTRODUCING...

BOUNDARIES FOR BALANCE

Learn to say a loving No, so that you can say 'Hell yes' to the things that truly matter.

Learn how to disconnect from the noise around you and tune in to what's happening in your body-mind. By the end of this course you will:

Be experiencing less guilt and more ease in your life.
Feel more rooted in your connection with yourself and your true desires.
Be more confident saying both 'no' and 'hell yes!! and less worried about how the world responds.

WEEK #1

Introduction to the course. Starting to look inward, discovering our cultural conditioning and your unique patterns.

WEEK #2

Cultivating kindness and self-love.

WEEK #3

Being a friend to yourself. Making kind choices regarding sharing of your time and resources.

WEEK #4

Letting go of what doesn't serve you. Introduction to the role of anger.

WEEK #5

The fierce side of boundaries. Dealing with challenging scenarios. Being our own protector.

WEEK #6

Life examples. Putting the skills from this course into practice in daily life. Receiving other's boundaries.

WEEK #7

Bonus week - Recap of the journey. Reflecting. Celebrating you!

Hi, I'm Erika.

I'm an embodiment educator, somatic coach and mindfulness/meditation teacher with over a decade’s experience in women's liberation.

I am dedicated to helping women break free of ‘niceness’, so they can step into their own authority, live according to their own rules and fully share their talents with the world.

I walk this path alongside you, undoing generations of conditioning to shrink myself and my desires through contemplative, embodied and creative explorations.

We know the material in this course works.

Here is what some of the women who've completed it have to say:

Thank you for this amazing six week course that will stay with me for life. Before the course, I found setting boundaries confrontational and a little frightening. Now, boundaries feel like a gift of kindness, for myself and for others - they still feel a little daunting but also rather exciting. I am finding it easier to say Yes and No. I am clearer on what is important to me. I am giving myself permission to live the life I need to live for my own wellbeing, without needing to justify it to anyone. I'm accepting, to some degree, my current limitations and leaning into them rather than playing tug of war with them. I am choosing me with less guilt. I am braver when communicating my needs, which means my relationships are now taking less energy. I now know that boundaries are essential to my wellbeing and they are something I want to welcome into my life, rather than try to avoid.

~ Nathalie

"Thank you Erika! I have become aware of what is not 'mine' to feel responsible for. I have identified patterns in myself and become aware of sensations that come up when setting boundaries. Practicing the lessons has been helpful in feeling more power and confidence. I appreciated hearing why it's hard to set boundaries, was able to identify patterns in myself and found the course very empowering."

Confusing self-love and care with selfishness has been something I struggle with. The course has given me time to really consider how I deal with boundaries, particularly relating to how much energy I use in relationship with others, and to consider bigger transitions in life, notably what I want to do rather than what I need to do. Regularly checking in with myself didn't come easily, but has been very useful. I'm now more self-aware and am recognising the things which bring me energy and those which are more draining to my soul. I am much more discerning of how I use my time and recognise the kinds of ways people rely on me. I've realised that giving myself the time to genuinely relax and do the things I love is crucial.

~ Annabel

Thank you so much Erika. This course has been soul-searching, and great fun too - mostly laughing at myself when I've grumbled so much that I've had a spontaneous 'ah-ha!' moment! Before the course, my boundaries were mostly unconscious, emotional, reactive. Now, they are more creative and playful, I'm conscious of when I'm not boundaried or when I'm pushing up against someone else's boundary. I've managed to set clear boundaries during the course and sat with the discomfort and proven to myself that I can do it. I'm kinder to myself (especially when I'm hormonal) and I'm trusting myself again.

In my business, I can keep myself separate from my students and their needs. I'm now planning for my needs which is actually meeting their needs better because I'm more embodied, calmer and less 'out there' trying to include everyone's perceived needs, no matter how exhausting and impossible that is! My nervous system is more responsive and that helps me shake off mistakes without dwelling on them. I'm rebuilding lost confidence and beginning to feel more creative about the future.

~ Tracey

"Erika's gentle but clear demeanor made the learning comfortable and supportive. I found myself utilizing some of the techniques almost immediately and finding positive results. One striking shift was the release of habitual resentment that was replaced with feeling empowered. This was so freeing."

Before the course, my boundaries were tentative and a struggle. Now, I am cultivating them. I'm still working on being able to recognize and respond to them being crossed or knowing what has happened in real time, but the whole concept is more integrated. I am finding more agency to advocate for and better protect and nourish myself. I realize my opinion is the one I want to most support. Before I always had the tendency to 'let in' others actions, to feel deeply and want to understand why they did what they did, to point out the injustices, the discrepancies, etc - I've realized I do not need to take everything in at the same level of depth, I am in control of what I chose to let have power over me. I feel how much more room there is for vitality when I consciously make this choice. Additionally, in my business, I am bolder and taking more chances!

~ Kimberlee Koym

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Boundaries for Balance

A six-week, self-paced online course.

£479

Or 2 payments of £240

Six weeks of video content, guided home practices and journaling prompts that will really change the way you experience your boundaries.
Interactive community sections to ask questions and share with other students.
An invitation to the next time I run the programme live.
Access to the course 'forever' (or for as long as I continue to host it online).

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Frequently Asked Questions

Is embodiment weird? Do I need to be athletic to take part?

Nope, not weird and not athletic. There’s no chanting or anything that’s too ‘woo’. I’m soulful, and I believe in nourishing the imagination in my work, but I also highly value the intellect and our lived experience. So expect pragmatic, practical teaching with clear exercises you can easily do, with an emphasis on you experimenting and finding what works for you. But also with poetry, music and myth in the mix.

How much time do I need?

I recommend that you allow a minimum of one hour a week for the six weeks. But, you’ll have access forever (or for as long as I continue to host the course on an online platform), so you can always go back and watch them again and again. In fact, I recommend you do!

Is this a trauma course?

No. I'm not a therapist and if you are actively experiencing trauma symptoms, this course may not be for you. One of the reasons embodied coaching is so effective is that it can go deep very quickly and sometimes this means it touches into layers of emotion. A level of resilience is assumed and we trust you to make that call when you purchase.

What about refunds?

Due to the nature of online courses, with purchasers receiving content immediately upon purchase, there are no refunds available. Please purchase mindfully, all purchases are final.

What are the Terms and Conditions?

Full Terms & Conditions can be viewed, here: https://www.yourrighttobe.com/course-tcs-and-disclaimer

More testimonials:

Thank you for this wonderful course. The course has helped me realize that with every 'Yes' comes a 'No' somewhere else - so now I focus more on prioritizing the 'Yes's' that I want. I now enjoy my own company more. I’m less likely to judge myself negatively and I'm willing to be as forgiving of myself as I would be of someone else. I find it's easier to ask for things and that it doesn’t have to be all me giving and someone else taking. In my business, I have maintained a confidence and drive to accomplish my idea far longer than I have before - the community support here gives me the motivation and the embodiment helps to inform the process.

~ Tracey Hackett

Before the course, boundaries were a struggle for me. Now, they are still a struggle, but with more insight into alternatives and how to put it into practice. I don't feel as aggressive towards myself as I often used to. I push myself less and feel more at ease with turning back to the calm and quiet that makes me feel alive and able to do things. I have backed away from some relationships that have felt demanding in an unpleasant way. I no longer feel that it's my sole responsibility to create 'good' relationships. Fear, anxiety and anger still come up, but I find it easier to find my own ground again and make choices based upon what I feel to be important. I have re-discovered the importance to me of a place/attitude of calm, clear and solid presence and that this source of power is 'mine' to live by.

I have felt alone for a while and this course did make me feel a bit more adrift at the start....but now I see that it has actually allowed me the space to offer myself that deep connection and to realise that I always have that available to me. Before the course, I would have said I had boundaries, but I now know that I actually allowed others to control my boundaries, which in fact means that I had none! It has been so empowering to me to realise I can set my own boundaries and honour them, which is in turn allowing others to see what I need. I love myself now! I can see how I used to abuse my own good nature and take no notice of my own needs. To be my own cheerleader is so magical, to listen to my body and thank it for supporting me, it feels like love is coming from deep within and not flowing straight out to everyone else, but nourishing me! Thank you Erika for allowing me that space to find my inner love and strength.

~ Michelle Wilson

Before the course, my boundaries were semi-permeable. Now they are more solid and it's easier to say 'No' based on what is important to me. I'm more aware of my needs, I have a strong connection to my safe space and I only act when I feel resourced to do so. I've noticed I'm speaking up for and asking for what I want and not doing things out of guilt or sense of responsibility. I'm practicing saying 'No' without giving a reason! I'm making more time to dream, write, create and get clearer and more confident on what my business will look like and what my voice will be. I feel I could work with/continue to revisit the course material for the next 6 months and continue to learn, grow and change.

~ Liz

In my family, it was not allowed to set boundaries to people I was close to. I realised setting boundaries was also a problem for my mother, my grandmother, my great-grandmother....
From this course, I am now more patient and understanding with myself. I practice the embodiment exercises and meditations and it helps to hold myself and to keep my space and form a better connection with myself.

~ Angela Preis

This course has been such a shift for me in how to view boundaries and relationships of all kinds. It is a practice, a way of living, not just a technique or tool. Before the course, my boundaries were permeable, uncertain, disembodied, like they did not belong to me, they were a collection of conditions passed down and sewn to my heels, but I did not own them or know how to put them into practice to serve myself or anyone else. I feel now that I recognize the need to grow from the inside out - to gain trust internally and let it exude or radiate externally, creating natural boundaries. To be filled up from within allows for what is not meant for me to be recognized, and for what is meant for me to be explored and held on to. It is not needed to be harsh or unyielding, but when I can own myself, it allows room to then connect with others too - I'm feeling more compassion and desire to open up, rather than collapse, contract and shrink away. I am learning to speak up directly, to let go of the neurotic talk in my mind that typically has distracted me from connecting in the past. I am more present in the moment and have the ability to be more honest and let go of responsibility that is not mine to carry. This work has developed a greater softness in my life, and a more fertile ground to grow from.

~ Holly Cochrane

"I feel things in my body and often times have become paralyzed or didn't understand what the feeling/sensation meant. Now I have lessons to refer back to, a foundation to move forward from -- by changing my embodiment I can effect positive change and no longer be stuck. I have a new authority in me, telling me it's ok to say no. Erika is a shining example that I needed to see and learn from."

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